Taro's Blog

Ken, you are my target audience. I am asking you to learn to put yourself in someone’s shoes. It means to try to understand another person’s feelings, thoughts, or situation by imagining yourself in their place. You lack it hopelessly.

You were late to school 19 times out of 53 days last term. That’s unacceptable. I was afraid that your classmates thought you were lazy and did not go to bed early enough. I wish you would stop staying up late and go to bed by 11 pm. Then, you can wake up at 7 am comfortably. I was so disappointed to learn that the 19 times you were late, despite my waking you up at 7 am every weekday.

You think that you always receive the brightest spotlight, and everyone is jealous of you. I have some good news to share with you. The shiny, bright spotlight you constantly receive 24/7/365 is an illusion. There is no such thing. Nobody gives you a damm. So, you can relax a bit.

However, people can spot the person without proper hygiene because they stink and smell really bad. But they will never tell that person about it. Instead, they will discuss it behind the person’s back. In short, “You should always apply deodorant after taking a bath or shower.”

You cannot waste someone’s time. Mind, they only have finite time on this planet, like you do. Respect their time. They don’t want to listen to a story that never ends. They don’t want to listen to a story that doesn’t begin with a summary. They don’t want to listen to a story that they don’t understand. If you observe their faces, you can spot their discomfort while you are talking about something that you are passionate about. Not everyone wants to learn about the event horizon of a black hole.